Family

The one thing I want to post today is . . . well I guess I should start with a reassurance statement before I go into my first topic.

I am nearly thirty years old. I have only been pregnant one time in my life, and it was this past summer. I carried for barely six weeks before I miscarried. I never got to see the baby or hear a heart beat. I love kids. One of these days, I would like to have at least one. I do not think my patience could handle anymore than that. Both of my sisters and my brother have children. Nearly all of my friends have children. All that being said, I would like to say that the fact that I do not have children means that it is your, the parents, responsibility to tell me when the child is having a birthday, a football game, gymnastics practice, a t-ball, baseball, basketball, swimming lessons, etc.. It is not my responsibility to keep up with such things. It is your job to send out the invitations, to email, mail, fax, the schedules and do the reminding. It does not help to tell me three or four weeks before the event that there is going to be an event but you do not know of a day or time yet, then expect me to be there. When something is settled on it is your responsibility to contact everyone. If you cannot because you forgot or you did not have time, that is fine but do not get ill with the other people when they did not know about it.

I have this complaint because this has happened to me twice this week. My youngest sister put her daughter in a pageant this last Saturday. I work every Saturday. Yes, I know I said earlier that I was unemployed. I work maybe two days a week helping my step mom out at her shop. With all of my classes during the week, the only real day I can help her is on Saturday’s. I have to pay for gas somehow. Anyways, I did not find out until the day after the pageant, that my niece was in this pageant. I know my sister told me about this pageant weeks and weeks ago, but as far as I can remember she never gave me any specifics. I felt real bad for not being there. Not that I would have been able to get off work to go but I could have tried. My little sister was not mad, which I was surprised about, or at least she did not act mad, but I still felt real shitty about the whole thing.

The next thing that happened was my nephew, from my oldest sister, had a birthday last Wednesday. I have never called or gone to see him on his birthday because my sister has always done something for his birthday and I go and see him then. Well, the last time I talked to my nephew and my sister about his birthday they said he was not having a party and they were going to have a get together sometime around his birthday. Well, the weekend before his birthday came and went, and I thought well she will call me or email me with something this week. The week of his birthday went by, and nothing. Then the weekend after his birthday came and went, so I emailed her. She proceeds to make me feel bad, because they did something on his birthday and I was not there. Yeah I could have called, but you know he is not my child, therefore it is your (my sister not you the reader) responsibility to let me know these things.

I am getting real tired of people acting like; just because I do not have children that I have nothing better to do than to keep tabs on their every waking movement. I have plenty of things in my life keeping me busy, and you know what even if I didn’t, it is still your responsibility.

Don’t get me wrong I love my family, and I really could make more of an effort to keep in touch more, but it is a two way street.

Talisman
Wednesday 10-29-08 10:05 pm.